‘From Forty With Love’ is a space for sharing, learning, inspiring and mentoring. It is a platform for women to write love letters to their younger selves and to the next generation. And it’s a place where one 40-year-old single, childfree woman will document a significant year in her life, a year she senses will be one of considerable change, growth, and, God willing, a year of blossoming and flourishing.

So why ‘From Forty With Love’? Well, if you could write a love letter to your younger self, what would you say? Would you tell her to focus on staying slim or to heed the opinions of others over her own? Would you advise her to work harder at her career and to concentrate on her achievements? Or would you tell her to follow her heart, to stop and smell the roses, to walk through her fears, to stay true to herself and to cherish love and relationships above all else? And what if those love letters could help younger women who are following on behind or encourage older women who are facing similar situations? What if your insight and wisdom could help another woman choose the path of the heart instead of the head, take a leap of faith, find help with her addictions or find comfort from her pain?

The aim of ‘From Forty With Love’ is to bring us all closer to that sometimes elusive place of freedom and contentment. It seeks to combine the power of collective wisdom and of storytelling with the value of learning, inspiring and mentoring others.

Katherine on her 40th birthday, March 2011

Katherine Baldwin, the founder of this site, is a storyteller. She is a journalist, a writer, a blogger and a teacher of writing and journalism. She loves to write from the heart, to share the stories of inspiring men and women, to have a positive impact on those around her and to share her experience with the hope of helping others. She loves to laugh, dance, exercise, enjoy Nature, share, explore and to go on adventures.

Katherine has had her own struggles: compulsive overeating, undereating, bingeing and starving from an early age, negative body image, an excessive drive and a thirst for achievement that led to burnout, grief and depression following the death of a father she felt she hardly knew, relationship difficulties and losses of other kinds. At 40, Katherine is discovering the true meaning and value of freedom. She is learning that freedom is all about following her heart, trusting her instinct, accepting herself just as she is and, one day at a time, throwing off the chains that restrict her from living a contented, abundant life. She wishes the same for every man and woman.

‘From Forty With Love’ is a space for women of all ages. While its focus will be sharing the stories of women in their late 30s and 40s and the trials and experiences peculiar to this time, it will feature stories of younger and older women. They will range from tales of loss and grief to health and fertility breakthroughs, they’ll tell of female social entrepreneurs who are challenging the status quo around the world and women who are following their dreams despite trying circumstances.

This site follows on from Katherine’s first blog Just As I Am – An Experiment in Self Acceptance, which she began on March 9th, 2011. Throughout the 40 days of Lent, Katherine tried to abstain from negative thoughts about her body, appearance and achievements and she blogged about the journey. She shared about her unhealthy eating behaviours, her struggles with perfectionism, procrastination and low self-esteem and her feelings around not yet having children. She incorporated the stories of individuals or organisations that are championing positive body image and self-acceptance. That blog took her through her 40th birthday. Turning 40 is a milestone in any woman’s life but it’s perhaps particularly significant for women who are single, without children or in career transition. Katherine is all three, which is why she feels this is an exciting time and one worth writing about.

Katherine’s own experience over the past decade is testimony to the power of shared wisdom, particularly among women. Having reached 40, she feels passionately that we are doing each other a disservice if we don’t share with each other, support each other, reach out to each other and write it all down for others to learn from. What if someone out there is struggling with something that you also struggled with in the past? What if you could ease their pain or help them find solutions faster by sharing your story? What if we could help women choose a more loving path by sharing how we dealt with situations of grief, loss, ill health or heartache? What if your admission of an addiction or a health disorder prompts other women to seek help? Sharing, learning, inspiring, mentoring – that’s what this site is all about.

If you have a story to share, please get in touch and feel free to comment on any of the articles or suggest topics that you would like to see covered.

And thank you for reading!

7 Responses to About

  1. jan beacham says:

    how did I not know you were doing this…. shall i read each day?

    will your journey bring you here?

    love you and miss you as always x

  2. Hey Jan,
    Welcome to my site! Please do read as often as you can – and feel free to comment and contribute – either anonymously or otherwise, however you prefer. Or feel free to just read too! Great to hear from you. Love and miss you too x
    PS I hope my journey will bring me Down Under some time in the not too distant future. Hope you’re really well. x

  3. trying to make sense of all this says:

    Hello Katherine,
    I have recently turned 40, am single and childless as opposed to childfree, and struggling to come to terms with my situation. Good to see such a generous blog, look forward to reading more.

    • Hi Claire,
      Thanks for getting in touch and reading my blog. I’d say ‘welcome to the club – the 40-something, single, childless club’ if that didn’t sound too insensitive. I relate to your plight and sympathise, but you’re definitely not alone. This club is growing in numbers and it can be very supportive. Nice to have you as a reader. Do check out my friend Jody Day’s site too – http://www.gateway-women.com – there’s a lot of great information there.
      Best wishes, Katherine

  4. Larisa says:

    Hello, Katherine,
    I’ve turned 40 last year, and I love it. Like you, I finally made some time to start my blog, and do what I want. Here is what I wrote about my “milestone”: http://touchedbytherain.com/2014/01/30/turning-40-or-a-girl-and-a-bike/

    I am looking forward to reading more of your stories.

  5. hanbarker says:

    Hi Katherine
    I just found you via JodyDay’s book recommended reading and wanted to say hello. I like what I have read so far in your blog and will delve more, but before I do I’m reaching out. I’m 42, born 1971, same as you which is oddly comforting about. when I turned 40 I was single, about to start a new job and being child free/less was about to hit me like a ton of bricks. 2.5 years in and I’m with a wonderful older man who can’t&won’t have children. I’m in a big unhappy funk, going through a turmoil and trying to reach out, read, take the thorny question on (rather than sit in the pain confusion and stagnation of it) and reach a decision thus to get on with having&creating a good life future. I have Jody’s book on my lap and an actual and literal (train) journey ahead to take the next step. (My train journey takes me to a weekend away with my best girlfriend who just decided to keep her unexpected pregnancy- ooh!ouch!gosh! etc) so, hello, and I look forward to my reading, and perhaps sharing. Love. Han x

    • Hi Han,
      Thanks so much for getting in touch. It’s great to hear from you and hear a little bit of your story. There are a lot of us in the same boat, around the same age. You’re definitely not alone. Well done for taking the thorny question on – a lot of us keep our head firmly in the sand until it’s too late. It’s such a difficult one. Good luck on your journey. Look forward to hearing from you again. Best wishes, Katherine x

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