Author Archives: fromfortywithlove

Living with limitations

Weakness has never been one of my strengths. I’ve always detested it in myself and I’ve disliked it in others. So much so that I’ve ridden roughshod over my own weaknesses, ignoring them or fighting against them in a way … Continue reading

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Dirty Dancing has a lot to answer for …

… and it’s not all about Patrick Swayze. Although he’s got a lot to do with it. I was 16 when the film came out (27 years ago!) and, I reckon, more impressionable than your average teenager. A group of … Continue reading

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I know who I am

On Tuesday of last week, a few hours before a scheduled phone call that I was pretty sure would mark the end of a brief courtship with an attractive man I really liked but kind of knew wasn’t for me … Continue reading

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My authentic self

Being my authentic self in relationship – particularly in relationships with men whom I find attractive and with whom I want to be in relationship – is my biggest challenge, according to well-placed sources (my therapist). Because being myself carries … Continue reading

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What’s your truth?

How do we know what our truth is? How do we know that what we sense is our intuition or instinct is actually that, rather than deep fears rooted in our distant past? How do we navigate our way through … Continue reading

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One day at a time

Don’t ask me how it happened but more than three weeks have passed since I last posted here. I know some of my readers (particularly my non-London friends) start wondering whether there’s something wrong if I don’t blog. But this … Continue reading

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How did I end up here?

This blog post could go two ways. It could either turn into a sombre reflection on the fact it’s my birthday tomorrow and my life looks nothing like I expected it to look at this age and stage. I could … Continue reading

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