Category Archives: codependency

Alone but not lonely

Posted on December 15, 2012 by

If I’d written this blog a day or two ago, as I stood with my feet in the Pacific Ocean surf and watched the sky turn pink above me, it would have read differently. Back then, as my toes sank … Continue reading →

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Our best interests

Posted on November 30, 2012 by

Why is it so hard to act in our own best interests? Or, since I can’t speak for everyone – as much as I’d like to – I’d better rephrase that and ask why it’s so hard for me to … Continue reading →

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Be still my beating heart

Posted on September 21, 2012 by

I have a box of anti-depressants in my handbag. Citalopram to be precise. I’ve opened the box and read the leaflet but the foil is intact, the pills unswallowed. I picked them up after seeing my GP on Monday. They’ve … Continue reading →

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Waiting for my honeymoon

Posted on September 5, 2012 by

Yes, I’m waiting for my honeymoon. But before you fall off your chair, no, I haven’t gone and got married. Nor am I even remotely close. I don’t think exchanging a few emails with a couple of random guys on … Continue reading →

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The curse of the capable woman

Posted on August 29, 2012 by

I spent the August bank holiday weekend with a bunch of intelligent, capable, successful, sporty women in their late 30s and early 40s. We were doing what independent, childless women of our age do on a bank holiday – pleasing … Continue reading →

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Taking the plunge

Posted on July 26, 2012 by

It’s official. I’m dating again. I don’t mean dating anyone in particular – now that would be news – but rather I’m back in the dating pool, after some time spent sitting on the sidelines, wrapped up in a robe … Continue reading →

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Somebody to love

Posted on June 26, 2012 by

When I looked at my last blog post just now, I felt sad – and not just because it was entitled ‘A space for sadness’. It’s dated June 5th. Twenty-one days ago. Three weeks. That would be fine if I’d … Continue reading →

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Mind games

Posted on January 13, 2012 by

Have you ever achieved something and then, not long after, decided it wasn’t good enough, or it wasn’t quite right, or you should have done it differently? Welcome to my world. Despite the many messages of support and gratitude from … Continue reading →

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Calling off the search

Posted on November 8, 2011 by

It’s official. The search is over. After spending much of my life looking for a husband and father to my future children (often without even realising I was doing it), I’ve decided to stop. I’m not sure how long this … Continue reading →

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Who’s running the show?

Posted on October 11, 2011 by

Am I being honest with myself? Completely, unreservedly honest? And how will I know when I am? Because if I’m not being honest with myself, I can’t be totally honest with anyone else. It seems so many things get in … Continue reading →

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