Category Archives: codependency

Dirty Dancing has a lot to answer for …

… and it’s not all about Patrick Swayze. Although he’s got a lot to do with it. I was 16 when the film came out (27 years ago!) and, I reckon, more impressionable than your average teenager. A group of … Continue reading

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I know who I am

On Tuesday of last week, a few hours before a scheduled phone call that I was pretty sure would mark the end of a brief courtship with an attractive man I really liked but kind of knew wasn’t for me … Continue reading

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My authentic self

Being my authentic self in relationship – particularly in relationships with men whom I find attractive and with whom I want to be in relationship – is my biggest challenge, according to well-placed sources (my therapist). Because being myself carries … Continue reading

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One day at a time

Don’t ask me how it happened but more than three weeks have passed since I last posted here. I know some of my readers (particularly my non-London friends) start wondering whether there’s something wrong if I don’t blog. But this … Continue reading

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Shortcuts

Wouldn’t it be great if we could take shortcuts – if we could get where we wanted to go with a click of our fingers or make things happen with a twitch of our nose (anyone remember Bewitched from years … Continue reading

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Ode to London: I love you, but …

There are so many things I love about London but I’m going to have to start with my friends. For someone of my age, stage and relationship status living in such a huge metropolis, friends become family. They’re whom we … Continue reading

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Ambivalence

It’s been so long since I’ve posted on this blog that I almost feel I’ve lost my nerve, lost my ability to write my truth. Maybe the act of writing one’s truth is like a muscle. The more you use … Continue reading

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Alone but not lonely

If I’d written this blog a day or two ago, as I stood with my feet in the Pacific Ocean surf and watched the sky turn pink above me, it would have read differently. Back then, as my toes sank … Continue reading

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Our best interests

Why is it so hard to act in our own best interests? Or, since I can’t speak for everyone – as much as I’d like to – I’d better rephrase that and ask why it’s so hard for me to … Continue reading

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Be still my beating heart

I have a box of anti-depressants in my handbag. Citalopram to be precise. I’ve opened the box and read the leaflet but the foil is intact, the pills unswallowed. I picked them up after seeing my GP on Monday. They’ve … Continue reading

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