IVF

With so many of us delaying the baby thing, IVF is becoming increasingly popular. But IVF is also a rollercoaster of emotions. Do you have an IVF story you would like to share with other women? Please get in touch.

There are many resources out there on IVF treatment including a myriad of private health clinics. We’d welcome any personal recommendations but in the meantime, here is some information from the UK National Health Service on IVF.

2 Responses to IVF

  1. It is very true that IVF is a very emotional process, if you are struggling to conceive there is a lot of help available out there. It is important to look at your treatment options so you can understand what is available to you.
    Most of all it is important to remember that there are people that are there to help and support you throughout your whole fertility journey.

  2. Jane says:

    In my experience, there was not much emotional support through IVF – particularly when it fails – which is difficut in itself – its not acknowledged that its failed when you don’t get pregnant. IVF doesnt guarantee you a baby or a pregnancy – it at best offers you a shot. If you are able to get through all the hurdles that lead to an embryo transfer its considered sucessful and you are lucky and you pay up front even if you dont make it to transfer day. However, without a pregnancy or a baby – to the person going through IVF – its a failure when you don’t have a preganancy. I experienced 6 failures over a 17 year period, nothing prepared me for the emotional self destruction (certainly not the clinic), but then no-one can help you with that I don’t feel. The feelings are so extreme – hope, joy – devestation, all on a constantly repeating cycle. I don’t regret my IVF journey – I always belived it would work one day and I had to travel this journey. If I could tell anyone or myself looking back – I would say, be careful – perhaps find a good counsellor locally who can know how to support you if it fails (family and freinds do not). Perhaps discuss with your partner beforehand and set some goals (end points) – its a very difficult ride to get off once you are on. I have reluctanly faced my worst fear as I no longer can hide behind the positives of keeping going. Our first IVF success was with donor eggs (our 7th try at age 46) – resulted in a pregnancy a year ago and ended in tradgedy as I was rushed to hospital at 8 weeks with an ectopic pregnancy. Our journey almost cost me my life and my marriage and certainly my sanity for many years. I’m thankful to my husband who will not see us go through any more – I still find it difficult to believe its all over and it never brought us that which we longed for. I don’t think there is enough support or investigations into why it doesn’t work – it seems to be accepted that it can take 2-3 times. I belive if it doesn’t work 1 or 2 time there may be something else going on – don’t blindly go from cycle to cycle. Find a clinic that takes everything into account and thoroughly investigates the possible reasons for it not working on the first go. If they don’t – move clinics. Also I would add – ask the clinc for live healthy birth rates not preganancy rates – miscarriage is very common and ectopic rates are higher with IVF (12%) than with natural pregnancies (2 %). I am now at risk of an ectopic of 15-20% even without a medical reason for the first. I’m only advising to face up to the reality of the real chances of success to be more prepared for any disappointment.

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