About

Welcome to ‘From Forty With Love’.

This blog is an intermittent diary of my journey from 40 to 50 and beyond.

It’s a precious space for me to share the twists and turns of my life and everything I’ve learned about singleness, love, dating, relationships, childlessness, self-care, wellbeing, spirituality, finding and following my path, understanding my heart’s true desires and accepting my circumstances as I’ve moved into and through middle-age.

I began this blog as a 40-year-old single woman who fully expected to be a mother, who struggled to make a romantic relationship work, who had a habit of choosing unavailable men and pushing the available guys away, who lived alone in a flat in North London and who spent far too much time doing work that wasn’t aligned with my authentic self.

I’m now 51 and married to a wonderful man, living by the sea in Dorset with a gorgeous cocker spaniel called Layla. I am writing a novel (80,000 words and counting), I have published one non-fiction book, How to Fall in Love, and I have built a beautiful coaching practice, through which I support others to love themselves, create lives that they truly love and find love.

I do not have children – the result of a complex and complicated journey that you can read about in numerous posts on this blog (search motherhood, ambivalence, childlessness and baby to find the most relevant posts).

This blog is about authenticity, vulnerability, truth, change, blossoming, flourishing and thriving. It’s also about the pain that some of us have to go through in order to get to a good place in our lives. It’s about the work we have to do on ourselves to create the lives and relationships we deserve.

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At the beach with my book

Since starting this blog just before my 40th birthday, I have transformed my life, my relationship status and my career.

I used to be a news journalist, a foreign correspondent based in Mexico and Brazil and a political reporter based in the British parliament. I reported on tsunamis, earthquakes and terrorist attacks and travelled the world with prime ministers, until I burnt out.

I now coach, write and speak, from the heart.

I write for the national media and speak on various stages on topics including love, dating, relationships, the challenges of mid-life, self-care and wellbeing. My writing has been published in Red, Psychologies, The Daily Mail, The Sunday Times, The Guardian and Good Housekeeping, among other media, and I’ve appeared on national TV and radio, including BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour.

In 2017, I published my first book, How to Fall in Love – A 10-Step Journey to the Heart. The book mixes heartfelt memoir and self-help with the intention of supporting others to find love and create lives that they love.

I now lead workshops, coach individuals and groups and host retreats in the UK and abroad. Explore www.katherinebaldwin.com for more information.

So why ‘From Forty With Love’?

Initially, the name was about writing love letters to our younger selves, to share all the things we’ve learned to help our younger selves navigate their lives and perhaps avoid some of the heartache and pain we’ve gone through.

So if you could do this, what would you say? Would you tell your younger self to focus on staying slim above all else or to heed the opinions of others over her own? Would you advise her to work harder at her career and to concentrate on her achievements? Or would you tell her to follow her heart, to stop and smell the roses, to walk through her fears, to stay true to herself and to cherish love and relationships first and foremost? And what if those love letters could help younger women who are following on behind or encourage older women who are facing similar situations? What if your insight and wisdom could help another woman choose the path of the heart instead of the head, take a leap of faith, find help with her addictions or find comfort from her pain?

I hope that my younger self, by reading this blog, would find truth, wisdom and encouragement to live authentically and freely.

On my 40th birthday, March 2011

About me: I love to write from the heart, to share my experience with the hope of helping others. I love to laugh, dance, exercise, enjoy Nature, connect with others on a deep level, explore and to go on adventures.

I have had my own struggles: compulsive overeating, undereating, bingeing and starving from an early age, negative body image, low self-esteem, an excessive drive and a thirst for achievement that led to burnout, grief and depression following the death of a father I felt I hardly knew, more grief following the death of my mother, relationship difficulties and losses of other kinds.

At 40, when I began this blog, I was beginning to discover the true meaning and value of freedom. Freedom is all about following my heart, trusting my instinct, accepting myself just as I am and, one day at a time, throwing off the chains that restrict me from living a contented, abundant life. This isn’t always easy. I’m 51 now and I still struggle to follow my heart but that is my desire and I wish the same for everyone.

This site follows on from my first blog Just As I Am – An Experiment in Self Acceptance, which I began on March 9th, 2011. Throughout the 40 days of Lent, I tried to abstain from negative thoughts about my body, appearance and achievements and I blogged about the journey. I shared about my unhealthy eating behaviours, my struggles with perfectionism, procrastination and low self-esteem and my feelings around not yet having children. I incorporated the stories of individuals or organisations that were championing positive body image and self-acceptance. That blog took me through my 40th birthday. Turning 40 is a milestone in any woman’s life but it’s perhaps particularly significant for women who are single, without children or in career transition. I was all three, which is why I felt that was an exciting time and one worth writing about.

My own experience over the past decade or two is testimony to the power of shared wisdom, particularly among women. I feel passionately that we are doing each other a disservice if we don’t share with each other, support each other, reach out to each other and write it all down for others to learn from. What if someone out there is struggling with something that you also struggled with in the past? What if you could ease their pain or help them find solutions faster by sharing your story? What if we could help people choose a more loving path by sharing how we dealt with situations of grief, loss, ill health or heartache? What if your admission of an addiction or a health disorder prompts others to seek help?

I hope that the truth I share on this blog helps you to find your way in life and love.

Thank you for reading!

On my wedding day, June 29, 2019

11 Responses to About

  1. jan beacham says:

    how did I not know you were doing this…. shall i read each day?

    will your journey bring you here?

    love you and miss you as always x

  2. Hey Jan,
    Welcome to my site! Please do read as often as you can – and feel free to comment and contribute – either anonymously or otherwise, however you prefer. Or feel free to just read too! Great to hear from you. Love and miss you too x
    PS I hope my journey will bring me Down Under some time in the not too distant future. Hope you’re really well. x

  3. trying to make sense of all this says:

    Hello Katherine,
    I have recently turned 40, am single and childless as opposed to childfree, and struggling to come to terms with my situation. Good to see such a generous blog, look forward to reading more.

    • Hi Claire,
      Thanks for getting in touch and reading my blog. I’d say ‘welcome to the club – the 40-something, single, childless club’ if that didn’t sound too insensitive. I relate to your plight and sympathise, but you’re definitely not alone. This club is growing in numbers and it can be very supportive. Nice to have you as a reader. Do check out my friend Jody Day’s site too – http://www.gateway-women.com – there’s a lot of great information there.
      Best wishes, Katherine

  4. Larisa says:

    Hello, Katherine,
    I’ve turned 40 last year, and I love it. Like you, I finally made some time to start my blog, and do what I want. Here is what I wrote about my “milestone”: http://touchedbytherain.com/2014/01/30/turning-40-or-a-girl-and-a-bike/

    I am looking forward to reading more of your stories.

  5. hanbarker says:

    Hi Katherine
    I just found you via JodyDay’s book recommended reading and wanted to say hello. I like what I have read so far in your blog and will delve more, but before I do I’m reaching out. I’m 42, born 1971, same as you which is oddly comforting about. when I turned 40 I was single, about to start a new job and being child free/less was about to hit me like a ton of bricks. 2.5 years in and I’m with a wonderful older man who can’t&won’t have children. I’m in a big unhappy funk, going through a turmoil and trying to reach out, read, take the thorny question on (rather than sit in the pain confusion and stagnation of it) and reach a decision thus to get on with having&creating a good life future. I have Jody’s book on my lap and an actual and literal (train) journey ahead to take the next step. (My train journey takes me to a weekend away with my best girlfriend who just decided to keep her unexpected pregnancy- ooh!ouch!gosh! etc) so, hello, and I look forward to my reading, and perhaps sharing. Love. Han x

    • Hi Han,
      Thanks so much for getting in touch. It’s great to hear from you and hear a little bit of your story. There are a lot of us in the same boat, around the same age. You’re definitely not alone. Well done for taking the thorny question on – a lot of us keep our head firmly in the sand until it’s too late. It’s such a difficult one. Good luck on your journey. Look forward to hearing from you again. Best wishes, Katherine x

  6. Dyanne says:

    Hi

    How do I get a copy of your book please? I know it’s 2018 but I’m just seeing this now and I’ve just turned 41 and feel completely lost in life. Going through another heartbreak which I’m finding very difficult to move on from.

    • Hello Dyanne,
      Sorry to hear that you’re in such a difficult place. I know how hard it is to be feeling so lost and lonely. My book is here (copy the link): http://amzn.to/2otGG19
      I hope it helps. Do get back in touch if you’d like to and let me know how you get on.
      Best wishes,
      Katherine

      • Dyanne says:

        Thank you Katherine,

        I tried the link above, I live in Canada and it’s not allowing me to make that purchase. Is the book available in Canada? I did a search on my computer at my local book store and nothing is coming up either.
        Thank you
        Dyanne

      • Hi Dyanne, can you drop me an email at katherine@katherinebaldwin.com – we can find a way to get a book to you. I did think it was available everywhere via Amazon but maybe not. Best wishes, Katherine

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