I felt the need to write a short addendum to my earlier post ‘The baby conundrum‘. As I took a ride on my scooter and reflected on what I wrote, I realised I’d used the phrase ‘the right guy’ far too often. In fact, using it once is probably once too often.

I remembered, as I scootered along, that I don’t believe in the concept of ‘the right guy’ so much anymore. I used to but these days, I believe in the right timing, the right headspace, the right circumstances and the willingness – on the part of both parties – to take a leap of faith, make a commitment and make a choice. I still like to think there’s some serendipity and divine intervention involved but, ultimately, I think it’s a choice, prompted by a particular time and place in the lives and journeys of two people. Just thought that was worth clarifying, to myself more than to anyone else, although I reserve the right to change my mind!


About Katherine Baldwin

I am a writer, dating and relationships coach, mid-life mentor and motivational speaker. I'm the author of How to Fall in Love - A 10-Step Journey to the Heart and I write for the national media on topics including love and dating, how to change unhelpful habits and have healthy relationships, and other aspects of personal growth. I coach people to create healthy, loving and authentic relationships with themselves and others, and lives they truly love. I lead workshops and run retreats. You can find out more about me at and or read my blog at
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