Category Archives: Relationships

Posts about relationships with ourselves and others

The danger of ‘if only’ thinking

Posted on August 11, 2020 by

I spent a lot of my childhood peering through other people’s windows, both literally and metaphorically, wishing that my life was more like theirs. Wishing I lived in their house. Wishing I had their parents. Wishing I had their clothes. … Continue reading →

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To control or to trust? That is the question

Posted on July 28, 2020 by

Do you trust the outcome or do you try to control it? I confess that despite many years of personal development, healing and growth, I still find myself trying to do the latter. Trying to control the outcome. Trying to … Continue reading →

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The regrets of the living

Posted on July 9, 2020 by

I held by breath and dived down to retrieve a shell from the seabed, watching the sand cloud around my fingers. It was an unremarkable shell, yet remarkable all the same – remarkable for the journey of formation it had … Continue reading →

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How Coronavirus taught me to be still

Posted on June 16, 2020 by

After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading →

Posted in Dating, Health, Leisure, Love, Perfectionism, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Acceptance, Women | Tagged , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

It’s OK to make mistakes

Posted on May 20, 2020 by

Yesterday, I sent an email to my mailing list, consisting mostly of single women on a personal development path, entitled “Open this if you’re looking for love.” The email invited them to take a look at my How to Fall … Continue reading →

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Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone

Posted on April 14, 2020 by

Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading →

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The life that hasn’t gone to plan

Posted on March 6, 2020 by

I’ve just spent a long weekend in the company of nine wonderful women whose lives, like mine, haven’t gone to plan. These women, attendees on my How to Fall in Love retreat, had expected things to work out differently. Some … Continue reading →

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

Posted on November 27, 2019 by

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading →

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The bittersweet road of recovery

Posted on November 5, 2019 by

Whenever I get well again after being ill, I realise just how unwell I’ve been. You’d think I’d be used to this by now, but it surprises me every time. When I’m ill, I don’t actually believe I’m ill, not … Continue reading →

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Just married!

Posted on July 30, 2019 by

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading →

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