Category Archives: Love

Posts about love, loving ourselves or others and falling in love

The danger of ‘if only’ thinking

I spent a lot of my childhood peering through other people’s windows, both literally and metaphorically, wishing that my life was more like theirs. Wishing I lived in their house. Wishing I had their parents. Wishing I had their clothes. … Continue reading

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The regrets of the living

I held by breath and dived down to retrieve a shell from the seabed, watching the sand cloud around my fingers. It was an unremarkable shell, yet remarkable all the same – remarkable for the journey of formation it had … Continue reading

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How Coronavirus taught me to be still

After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading

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Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone

Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading

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The bittersweet road of recovery

Whenever I get well again after being ill, I realise just how unwell I’ve been. You’d think I’d be used to this by now, but it surprises me every time. When I’m ill, I don’t actually believe I’m ill, not … Continue reading

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Facing our deepest fears

I began writing this post back in May, when the feelings I describe in it were close to the surface, so close that they spilled out onto the page, or the computer screen, at great speed. But I then got … Continue reading

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Just married!

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading

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Ambivalence and commitment

This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading

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Lent of Love

Eight years ago, I sat on the loo at London’s Southbank Centre, glanced down at my thighs, shook my head from left to right, sighed out loud, and then made a decision. No more, I said to myself. No more. … Continue reading

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