We build a brighter present and future by breaking free from our past.

By breaking the chains that bind us.

By making choices and taking actions that are different to the ones that previously led us, or our parents or ancestors, down painful pathways.

In simple terms, we build a brighter present and future by doing things differently (that’s the title of Chapter 4 of my book).

So what can you do this day or this week to create a present and a future that isn’t dictated by your past?

Here are some examples:

If, in the past, you censored yourself and didn’t speak up, today you can have a voice.

If, in the past, you allowed others to trample all over your rights, today you can stand up for yourself.

If, in the past, you allowed your fear of intimacy to lead you into relationships with unavailable people, today you can make a choice to face your fear of intimacy and to heal the wounds that caused that fear to take root.

If, in the past, you abandoned your dreams and neglected your heart’s desires, today you can make a choice to honour your dreams and pursue your heart’s desires.

If, in the past, you isolated and hid, today you can make a choice to connect.

This is what I’m trying to do.

Every day.

To create a present and future that isn’t dictated by my past, or my mother’s past, or her mother’s past.

To live courageously, not fearfully. To shine, rather than hide. To speak up, rather than be silent.

I don’t always succeed. Sometimes the fear takes hold.

But my intention is strong and I am very determined.

I know you are too.

I know you have it in you to break free from your past and create a brighter present and future.

And if you doubt yourself, please reach out for support – reach out to me or to others.

As I said in my TEDx talk, which was both on the topic of breaking free and was an example of me breaking free, having a voice, speaking my truth, we can’t do it alone.

We can do it. But we can’t do it alone.

Wishing you the brightest of days.

Resources to help you to shine brightly

Watch my TEDx talk on Finding Courage, Overcoming Fear and Breaking Free here.

My first book, How to Fall Love, includes many tools to help you to connect to your feelings and overcome unhealthy patterns. It also tells the story of my personal journey of healing and finding a healthy and loving relationship.

I work 1:1 with clients who are looking to create a healthy romantic relationship and/or build a fulfilling life. Explore my coaching offerings and book a free discovery call on my website.

I have a number of transformational online courses on finding love and self-love. You can find them here.