Category Archives: Recovery

The life that hasn’t gone to plan

Posted on March 6, 2020 by

I’ve just spent a long weekend in the company of nine wonderful women whose lives, like mine, haven’t gone to plan. These women, attendees on my How to Fall in Love retreat, had expected things to work out differently. Some … Continue reading →

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

Posted on November 27, 2019 by

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading →

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The bittersweet road of recovery

Posted on November 5, 2019 by

Whenever I get well again after being ill, I realise just how unwell I’ve been. You’d think I’d be used to this by now, but it surprises me every time. When I’m ill, I don’t actually believe I’m ill, not … Continue reading →

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Facing our deepest fears

Posted on August 14, 2019 by

I began writing this post back in May, when the feelings I describe in it were close to the surface, so close that they spilled out onto the page, or the computer screen, at great speed. But I then got … Continue reading →

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Just married!

Posted on July 30, 2019 by

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading →

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Ambivalence and commitment

Posted on April 30, 2019 by

This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading →

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Lent of Love

Posted on March 6, 2019 by

Eight years ago, I sat on the loo at London’s Southbank Centre, glanced down at my thighs, shook my head from left to right, sighed out loud, and then made a decision. No more, I said to myself. No more. … Continue reading →

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