Tag Archives: Love

Are you emotionally available?

I’ve been writing this blog for eleven years and every post represents a small step on my journey of emotional maturity. I started blogging here at 40 as I confronted the reality of being a single, childless woman whose career … Continue reading

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Self-love is way more than a massage

When we think of self-love, we naturally think of massages and bubble baths. And don’t get me wrong, I love a good soak and I adore being massaged. But self-love, in my book, goes way beyond that. And it might … Continue reading

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The joy of being alive

It could have been an awful week. Mid-January. Dark mornings. Bleak skies. And the first anniversary of Mum’s death. A week to be endured and quickly forgotten. Instead, it was a memorable and magical week. Why? Because I gave myself … Continue reading

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Christmas hurt and Christmas presence

It’s that time of year again, that time of year when I cry bucketloads of tears, that time of year when my emotions are heightened and I get in touch with multiple layers of grief and loss. It’s that time … Continue reading

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I’m stepping up my self-care

They say we teach what we need to learn and I know that to be true. I’ve been teaching people about self-love and self-care for many years, first informally, by supporting others who were on a similar healing journey to … Continue reading

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It is safe to shine

It is safe to shine. It’s safe to be visible, to be seen. It’s safe to be me. It’s safe to do my thing. Not only that, but the world needs me to shine, to be seen, to be me … Continue reading

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The regrets of the living

I held by breath and dived down to retrieve a shell from the seabed, watching the sand cloud around my fingers. It was an unremarkable shell, yet remarkable all the same – remarkable for the journey of formation it had … Continue reading

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How Coronavirus taught me to be still

After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading

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Just married!

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading

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Ambivalence and commitment

This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading

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