Category Archives: codependency

To control or to trust? That is the question

Do you trust the outcome or do you try to control it? I confess that despite many years of personal development, healing and growth, I still find myself trying to do the latter. Trying to control the outcome. Trying to … Continue reading

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It’s OK to make mistakes

Yesterday, I sent an email to my mailing list, consisting mostly of single women on a personal development path, entitled “Open this if you’re looking for love.” The email invited them to take a look at my How to Fall … Continue reading

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Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone

Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading

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Ambivalence and commitment

This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading

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Easing gently into 2019

Happy New Year! Firstly, I want to say how grateful I am to you for reading my blog. I know some of you have been following me for a very long time – since this blog began nearly 8 years … Continue reading

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Overcompensating for low self-worth

Do you overcompensate because you don’t feel good enough? Do you do too much, work too hard, clean too thoroughly or spend too long worrying about your appearance because you don’t feel worthy or acceptable as you are? I definitely … Continue reading

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I love you but I have to let you go

Have you ever loved something or somebody but had to let that thing or person go? I imagine so. We don’t get through life without loving and losing, without experiencing pain, grief and loss. Unless, of course, we choose not … Continue reading

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Ambivalence about motherhood

Whenever I do a short radio or TV interview, I come away wishing I’d said things differently and made my points more clearly and succinctly. In most cases, I come away wanting to write, wanting to make sense of my … Continue reading

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Anger turned inwards

Anger is on my mind, as you’ll know if you read my previous post, ROAR! Why is it that when everything in me is screaming, ‘That’s not OK!‘, or ‘You’ve got to be kidding’, or ‘WTF!’ (excuse my French), I … Continue reading

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