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How on earth did I end up here?
How on earth did I end up here? This is a question that unites so many of us. It’s a question I asked repeatedly through my late 30s and early 40s. And it’s a question that comes up all the … Continue reading
It is safe to shine
It is safe to shine. It’s safe to be visible, to be seen. It’s safe to be me. It’s safe to do my thing. Not only that, but the world needs me to shine, to be seen, to be me … Continue reading
Why I don’t have children
It would be helpful to fit neatly into a box, to be able to find a label that aptly describes my journey to not having children. That might help me to feel like I belong somewhere. But as with other … Continue reading
Transformation is possible
Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed with the amount of growth and healing I still have to do, as I am today, I think about how far I’ve come and how much I’ve transformed over the past two decades. That gives me … Continue reading
The many faces of grief
This morning, I swam towards the sun along a shimmering pathway of light. With every stroke, I reached for the distant yellow ball, before pausing to lie on my back and take in the blueness of the sky. The sea … Continue reading
From Fifty With Love
I can’t tell you how moved and excited I feel to write these words: From Fifty With Love. Some of you will have been with me from the very start, from the birth of this blog – From Forty With … Continue reading
From breakdown to breakthrough
As I prepare to celebrate my 50th birthday on Saturday, I’ve been reflecting on my milestone birthdays to date and the breakdowns and breakthroughs that have accompanied them. On my 10th birthday, I was dealing with feelings that I had … Continue reading
The courage to grieve
It takes huge courage to grieve – to grieve the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the absence of children, the loss of our health or the loss of the life we thought we’d have. It’s … Continue reading
Change is possible and it starts with self-love
It’s nearly 10 years since I wrote my first ever blog, on a site I called Just As I Am – An Experiment in Self-Acceptance. It was the eve of Lent, 2011, and I’d had it. I’d had it with … Continue reading
The day my mother died
When my phone rang on January 13th, I hoped against hope that it was my alarm waking me up, although I knew, deep down, that it was the middle of the night. That could only mean one thing: Mum had … Continue reading
From Forty With Love 