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The danger of ‘if only’ thinking

I spent a lot of my childhood peering through other people’s windows, both literally and metaphorically, wishing that my life was more like theirs. Wishing I lived in their house. Wishing I had their parents. Wishing I had their clothes. … Continue reading

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The life that hasn’t gone to plan

I’ve just spent a long weekend in the company of nine wonderful women whose lives, like mine, haven’t gone to plan. These women, attendees on my How to Fall in Love retreat, had expected things to work out differently. Some … Continue reading

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Emotional dips

Here’s one I prepared earlier … I wrote the bulk of this blog yesterday morning but was unable to post. My feelings change by the day but it feels important to share yesterday’s thoughts … I’m in a dip – … Continue reading

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Ambivalence about motherhood

Whenever I do a short radio or TV interview, I come away wishing I’d said things differently and made my points more clearly and succinctly. In most cases, I come away wanting to write, wanting to make sense of my … Continue reading

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Festive feelings

It’s not all snowflakes and tinsel, jingle bells and ho, ho, ho. It’s not all jolly times and happy memories. Christmas has the ability to remind us of Christmases past and perhaps, for some of us, Christmas hasn’t always been … Continue reading

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Tears on the Tube

Happy New Year! OK, so it’s Jan 26th and I’m a little behind. Where has the month gone? There was a mixture of glumness in the early days with some very predictable back-to-London, back-to-work blues, followed by some lovely trips … Continue reading

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