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Why I don’t have children

It would be helpful to fit neatly into a box, to be able to find a label that aptly describes my journey to not having children. That might help me to feel like I belong somewhere. But as with other … Continue reading

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The many faces of grief

This morning, I swam towards the sun along a shimmering pathway of light. With every stroke, I reached for the distant yellow ball, before pausing to lie on my back and take in the blueness of the sky. The sea … Continue reading

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From breakdown to breakthrough

As I prepare to celebrate my 50th birthday on Saturday, I’ve been reflecting on my milestone birthdays to date and the breakdowns and breakthroughs that have accompanied them. On my 10th birthday, I was dealing with feelings that I had … Continue reading

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The courage to grieve

It takes huge courage to grieve – to grieve the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the absence of children, the loss of our health or the loss of the life we thought we’d have. It’s … Continue reading

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The day my mother died

When my phone rang on January 13th, I hoped against hope that it was my alarm waking me up, although I knew, deep down, that it was the middle of the night. That could only mean one thing: Mum had … Continue reading

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2021: Your call to adventure

Can you hear it? Can you hear the call to adventure? Can you hear the call to claim your seat at the table. To take up your space. To make your voice heard. To be the person you were always … Continue reading

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Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone

Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading

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Am I childless or childfree?

Am I childless or childfree? Or am I neither? Am I somewhere in between? I drafted this blog earlier this week but couldn’t finish it at the time. I’ve returned today to edit it and to share it with you … Continue reading

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