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I’m stepping up my self-care

They say we teach what we need to learn and I know that to be true. I’ve been teaching people about self-love and self-care for many years, first informally, by supporting others who were on a similar healing journey to … Continue reading

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How on earth did I end up here?

How on earth did I end up here? This is a question that unites so many of us. It’s a question I asked repeatedly through my late 30s and early 40s. And it’s a question that comes up all the … Continue reading

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It is safe to shine

It is safe to shine. It’s safe to be visible, to be seen. It’s safe to be me. It’s safe to do my thing. Not only that, but the world needs me to shine, to be seen, to be me … Continue reading

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Why I don’t have children

It would be helpful to fit neatly into a box, to be able to find a label that aptly describes my journey to not having children. That might help me to feel like I belong somewhere. But as with other … Continue reading

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Transformation is possible

Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed with the amount of growth and healing I still have to do, as I am today, I think about how far I’ve come and how much I’ve transformed over the past two decades. That gives me … Continue reading

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The many faces of grief

This morning, I swam towards the sun along a shimmering pathway of light. With every stroke, I reached for the distant yellow ball, before pausing to lie on my back and take in the blueness of the sky. The sea … Continue reading

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From Fifty With Love

I can’t tell you how moved and excited I feel to write these words: From Fifty With Love. Some of you will have been with me from the very start, from the birth of this blog – From Forty With … Continue reading

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From breakdown to breakthrough

As I prepare to celebrate my 50th birthday on Saturday, I’ve been reflecting on my milestone birthdays to date and the breakdowns and breakthroughs that have accompanied them. On my 10th birthday, I was dealing with feelings that I had … Continue reading

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The courage to grieve

It takes huge courage to grieve – to grieve the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the absence of children, the loss of our health or the loss of the life we thought we’d have. It’s … Continue reading

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Change is possible and it starts with self-love

It’s nearly 10 years since I wrote my first ever blog, on a site I called Just As I Am – An Experiment in Self-Acceptance. It was the eve of Lent, 2011, and I’d had it. I’d had it with … Continue reading

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