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Are you emotionally available?
I’ve been writing this blog for eleven years and every post represents a small step on my journey of emotional maturity. I started blogging here at 40 as I confronted the reality of being a single, childless woman whose career … Continue reading
Self-love is way more than a massage
When we think of self-love, we naturally think of massages and bubble baths. And don’t get me wrong, I love a good soak and I adore being massaged. But self-love, in my book, goes way beyond that. And it might … Continue reading
The joy of being alive
It could have been an awful week. Mid-January. Dark mornings. Bleak skies. And the first anniversary of Mum’s death. A week to be endured and quickly forgotten. Instead, it was a memorable and magical week. Why? Because I gave myself … Continue reading
Christmas hurt and Christmas presence
It’s that time of year again, that time of year when I cry bucketloads of tears, that time of year when my emotions are heightened and I get in touch with multiple layers of grief and loss. It’s that time … Continue reading
I’m stepping up my self-care
They say we teach what we need to learn and I know that to be true. I’ve been teaching people about self-love and self-care for many years, first informally, by supporting others who were on a similar healing journey to … Continue reading
How on earth did I end up here?
How on earth did I end up here? This is a question that unites so many of us. It’s a question I asked repeatedly through my late 30s and early 40s. And it’s a question that comes up all the … Continue reading
It is safe to shine
It is safe to shine. It’s safe to be visible, to be seen. It’s safe to be me. It’s safe to do my thing. Not only that, but the world needs me to shine, to be seen, to be me … Continue reading
Why I don’t have children
It would be helpful to fit neatly into a box, to be able to find a label that aptly describes my journey to not having children. That might help me to feel like I belong somewhere. But as with other … Continue reading
Transformation is possible
Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed with the amount of growth and healing I still have to do, as I am today, I think about how far I’ve come and how much I’ve transformed over the past two decades. That gives me … Continue reading
The many faces of grief
This morning, I swam towards the sun along a shimmering pathway of light. With every stroke, I reached for the distant yellow ball, before pausing to lie on my back and take in the blueness of the sky. The sea … Continue reading
From Forty With Love 