Category Archives: Childless

Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone

Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading

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The life that hasn’t gone to plan

I’ve just spent a long weekend in the company of nine wonderful women whose lives, like mine, haven’t gone to plan. These women, attendees on my How to Fall in Love retreat, had expected things to work out differently. Some … Continue reading

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How do I know if I want kids or not?

OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading

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Just married!

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading

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Ambivalence and commitment

This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading

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I want to be seen

I want to be known. I want to be seen. I heard author and activist Glennon Doyle use these words in an interview with fellow author Elizabeth Gilbert (of Eat, Pray, Love fame and more recently, Big Magic) a few … Continue reading

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Am I childless or childfree?

Am I childless or childfree? Or am I neither? Am I somewhere in between? I drafted this blog earlier this week but couldn’t finish it at the time. I’ve returned today to edit it and to share it with you … Continue reading

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Embracing ‘what is’

The truth is that nobody has a charmed life. Everyone experiences heartache and pain (some more than others, I grant you that). But we all have a choice as to how we live. The most important lesson I have learned … Continue reading

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Self-love is where it starts

Valentine’s Day isn’t easy for some of us. Everywhere we look, there are hearts, flowers and chocolates. Or couples smooching and holding hands. Some of us can ignore it. Some can dismiss it and deride it for its rampant commercialism. … Continue reading

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Ambivalence about motherhood

Whenever I do a short radio or TV interview, I come away wishing I’d said things differently and made my points more clearly and succinctly. In most cases, I come away wanting to write, wanting to make sense of my … Continue reading

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