Category Archives: Perfectionism
To control or to trust? That is the question
Do you trust the outcome or do you try to control it? I confess that despite many years of personal development, healing and growth, I still find myself trying to do the latter. Trying to control the outcome. Trying to … Continue reading
How Coronavirus taught me to be still
After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading
It’s OK to make mistakes
Yesterday, I sent an email to my mailing list, consisting mostly of single women on a personal development path, entitled “Open this if you’re looking for love.” The email invited them to take a look at my How to Fall … Continue reading
Just married!
Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading
Lent of Love
Eight years ago, I sat on the loo at London’s Southbank Centre, glanced down at my thighs, shook my head from left to right, sighed out loud, and then made a decision. No more, I said to myself. No more. … Continue reading
I want to be seen
I want to be known. I want to be seen. I heard author and activist Glennon Doyle use these words in an interview with fellow author Elizabeth Gilbert (of Eat, Pray, Love fame and more recently, Big Magic) a few … Continue reading
Overcompensating for low self-worth
Do you overcompensate because you don’t feel good enough? Do you do too much, work too hard, clean too thoroughly or spend too long worrying about your appearance because you don’t feel worthy or acceptable as you are? I definitely … Continue reading
How to build self-esteem
I have the wonderful ladies of the Mothers’ Union to thank for the inspiration for this post. I spoke at a Mothers’ Union event in Brockenhurst last week, after kindly being invited back following my first visit there a year … Continue reading
Let’s talk about shame
I wrote this post on a train a few weeks back, in one of those inspired moments when I just had to get the words down onto the page or the screen. I didn’t have wifi at the time so … Continue reading
The Magic of March
My 46th birthday. How to Fall in Love published in paperback. A marriage proposal. That’s the magic of March. When it comes to March, I’m biased. It’s my birth month and I’ve never shied away from celebrating the day I … Continue reading
From Forty With Love 