Category Archives: Perfectionism

To control or to trust? That is the question

Posted on July 28, 2020 by

Do you trust the outcome or do you try to control it? I confess that despite many years of personal development, healing and growth, I still find myself trying to do the latter. Trying to control the outcome. Trying to … Continue reading →

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How Coronavirus taught me to be still

Posted on June 16, 2020 by

After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading →

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It’s OK to make mistakes

Posted on May 20, 2020 by

Yesterday, I sent an email to my mailing list, consisting mostly of single women on a personal development path, entitled “Open this if you’re looking for love.” The email invited them to take a look at my How to Fall … Continue reading →

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Just married!

Posted on July 30, 2019 by

Our wedding day. What a day. What a spectacular, phenomenal day. What a momentous, miraculous milestone on my journey back to myself, on my journey to love, on my journey to the heart. A journey that began almost two decades … Continue reading →

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Lent of Love

Posted on March 6, 2019 by

Eight years ago, I sat on the loo at London’s Southbank Centre, glanced down at my thighs, shook my head from left to right, sighed out loud, and then made a decision. No more, I said to myself. No more. … Continue reading →

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I want to be seen

Posted on January 13, 2019 by

I want to be known. I want to be seen. I heard author and activist Glennon Doyle use these words in an interview with fellow author Elizabeth Gilbert (of Eat, Pray, Love fame and more recently, Big Magic) a few … Continue reading →

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Overcompensating for low self-worth

Posted on November 2, 2018 by

Do you overcompensate because you don’t feel good enough? Do you do too much, work too hard, clean too thoroughly or spend too long worrying about your appearance because you don’t feel worthy or acceptable as you are? I definitely … Continue reading →

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How to build self-esteem

Posted on July 19, 2017 by

I have the wonderful ladies of the Mothers’ Union to thank for the inspiration for this post. I spoke at a Mothers’ Union event in Brockenhurst last week, after kindly being invited back following my first visit there a year … Continue reading →

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Let’s talk about shame

Posted on April 27, 2017 by

I wrote this post on a train a few weeks back, in one of those inspired moments when I just had to get the words down onto the page or the screen. I didn’t have wifi at the time so … Continue reading →

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The Magic of March

Posted on March 31, 2017 by

My 46th birthday. How to Fall in Love published in paperback. A marriage proposal. That’s the magic of March. When it comes to March, I’m biased. It’s my birth month and I’ve never shied away from celebrating the day I … Continue reading →

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