Category Archives: Dating
To control or to trust? That is the question
Do you trust the outcome or do you try to control it? I confess that despite many years of personal development, healing and growth, I still find myself trying to do the latter. Trying to control the outcome. Trying to … Continue reading
How Coronavirus taught me to be still
After years of rushing, racing and running, coronavirus has forced me to slow down. It’s like I have a brake in the middle of my chest. As soon as I start to rush or hurry, or as soon as I … Continue reading
It’s OK to make mistakes
Yesterday, I sent an email to my mailing list, consisting mostly of single women on a personal development path, entitled “Open this if you’re looking for love.” The email invited them to take a look at my How to Fall … Continue reading
Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone
Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading
How do I know if I want kids or not?
OK, so you might be wondering why I’m asking this question. You might be thinking: haven’t we been through this already? Haven’t we covered this topic from all angles and in all forms of media since this blog launched back … Continue reading
The bittersweet road of recovery
Whenever I get well again after being ill, I realise just how unwell I’ve been. You’d think I’d be used to this by now, but it surprises me every time. When I’m ill, I don’t actually believe I’m ill, not … Continue reading
Ambivalence and commitment
This morning, I sat outside the beach hut, looked out at the vast expanse of sea before me and cried. I cried because I’d just had a massive adrenaline come-down after writing a deeply personal article on ambivalence about motherhood … Continue reading
Self-love is where it starts
Valentine’s Day isn’t easy for some of us. Everywhere we look, there are hearts, flowers and chocolates. Or couples smooching and holding hands. Some of us can ignore it. Some can dismiss it and deride it for its rampant commercialism. … Continue reading
Our time is now
Last week, I sat in a clinic with my mum and wiped my tears away as the nurse diagnosed her with a form of dementia. It shouldn’t have come as a shock – her memory had been failing for a … Continue reading
Can you hear the call to change?
Nothing changes if nothing changes. If we don’t choose to change, we’ll stay the same. Our lives will stay the same. Our dreams will pass us by. Can you hear the call to change? Can you feel it? Can you … Continue reading
From Forty With Love 