Category Archives: codependency

Our best interests

Why is it so hard to act in our own best interests? Or, since I can’t speak for everyone – as much as I’d like to – I’d better rephrase that and ask why it’s so hard for me to … Continue reading

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Be still my beating heart

I have a box of anti-depressants in my handbag. Citalopram to be precise. I’ve opened the box and read the leaflet but the foil is intact, the pills unswallowed. I picked them up after seeing my GP on Monday. They’ve … Continue reading

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Waiting for my honeymoon

Yes, I’m waiting for my honeymoon. But before you fall off your chair, no, I haven’t gone and got married. Nor am I even remotely close. I don’t think exchanging a few emails with a couple of random guys on … Continue reading

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The curse of the capable woman

I spent the August bank holiday weekend with a bunch of intelligent, capable, successful, sporty women in their late 30s and early 40s. We were doing what independent, childless women of our age do on a bank holiday – pleasing … Continue reading

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Taking the plunge

It’s official. I’m dating again. I don’t mean dating anyone in particular – now that would be news – but rather I’m back in the dating pool, after some time spent sitting on the sidelines, wrapped up in a robe … Continue reading

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Somebody to love

When I looked at my last blog post just now, I felt sad – and not just because it was entitled ‘A space for sadness’. It’s dated June 5th. Twenty-one days ago. Three weeks. That would be fine if I’d … Continue reading

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Mind games

Have you ever achieved something and then, not long after, decided it wasn’t good enough, or it wasn’t quite right, or you should have done it differently? Welcome to my world. Despite the many messages of support and gratitude from … Continue reading

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Calling off the search

It’s official. The search is over. After spending much of my life looking for a husband and father to my future children (often without even realising I was doing it), I’ve decided to stop. I’m not sure how long this … Continue reading

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Who’s running the show?

Am I being honest with myself? Completely, unreservedly honest? And how will I know when I am? Because if I’m not being honest with myself, I can’t be totally honest with anyone else. It seems so many things get in … Continue reading

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Living with integrity

This week has been a challenging one – and it’s only Thursday. It’s also been a week in which I’ve felt fully alive, thanks to my ability to feel my feelings – be they pain, sadness, fear, or joy – … Continue reading

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