Category Archives: Eating disorders
The danger of ‘if only’ thinking
I spent a lot of my childhood peering through other people’s windows, both literally and metaphorically, wishing that my life was more like theirs. Wishing I lived in their house. Wishing I had their parents. Wishing I had their clothes. … Continue reading
Lonely in lockdown? You’re not alone
Loneliness. Aloneness. Isolation. Lockdown. These words are roaming around my mind right now, prompting my fingers to search out letters on the keyboard. I don’t know in what order to put the words. I don’t know where this blog will … Continue reading
Lent of Love
Eight years ago, I sat on the loo at London’s Southbank Centre, glanced down at my thighs, shook my head from left to right, sighed out loud, and then made a decision. No more, I said to myself. No more. … Continue reading
Overcompensating for low self-worth
Do you overcompensate because you don’t feel good enough? Do you do too much, work too hard, clean too thoroughly or spend too long worrying about your appearance because you don’t feel worthy or acceptable as you are? I definitely … Continue reading
I love you but I have to let you go
Have you ever loved something or somebody but had to let that thing or person go? I imagine so. We don’t get through life without loving and losing, without experiencing pain, grief and loss. Unless, of course, we choose not … Continue reading
Self-love is where it starts
Valentine’s Day isn’t easy for some of us. Everywhere we look, there are hearts, flowers and chocolates. Or couples smooching and holding hands. Some of us can ignore it. Some can dismiss it and deride it for its rampant commercialism. … Continue reading
Anger turned inwards
Anger is on my mind, as you’ll know if you read my previous post, ROAR! Why is it that when everything in me is screaming, ‘That’s not OK!‘, or ‘You’ve got to be kidding’, or ‘WTF!’ (excuse my French), I … Continue reading
ROAR!
Something is stirring. I can’t quite explain it but it’s bubbling up inside. It’s anger. It’s a desire to break out and break free. It’s a fierceness. It’s my wild side. It’s the woman inside me who wants to ROAR … Continue reading
How to stop emotional eating
Weight. Body image. Self-esteem. These are issues that come up quite regularly in my work as a dating and relationships coach. Or perhaps I tune in to them more than to other issues, because I’m a recovering compulsive overeater. For … Continue reading
Walking through treacle
Does it ever feel like you’re walking through treacle? Does it ever feel like a struggle just to put one foot in front of the other, just to complete the most basic of tasks, just to keep your spirits up … Continue reading
From Forty With Love 